A good friend of mine recently wrote a blog entry (http://youandi365.blogspot.com/) about the disillusionment of what we think will happen upon graduation (that we will walk into a cushy job with copious amounts of perks and respect…and a corner office) and what actually happens (a road paved with months of self-doubt, confusion and endless ego-bruising job application submissions/interviews at the end of which lies a decent job with minimal perks, stability and pay).

This blog entry coincided perfectly with a recurring conversation that has popped up in my life over the last little while. A few of my friends are now in jobs that they worked extremely hard to get into after graduation. A few of them are even sitting in the job after the job after the job they got after graduating. However, they all seem to be lacking in the contentment area. It seems as though our generation has this new concept, that I don’t believe our parents (and certainly not our grandparents) ever thought of, the idea of deriving one’s happiness SOLELY from one’s work.

Now I would like to remind all of my friends – we are young and as Laragh (youandi365) stated, we are “in transition”. Simply because we have all found ourselves in roles that we relate to being “adults” (perhaps you have a mortgage, RRSP, TFSA, life insurance…or all of the above) we expect that we should all be settled in our identity and in turn that we should stop growing as individuals. I do not believe this is the case. I believe we must remember that a) not all of one’s contentment can be drawn from a single source (not a friend, a boyfriend, a hobby…or a job); b) where you are now as an “adult” does not necessarily predict where you will always be and c) as harsh as this sounds…not everyone can be happy at work.

I do not mean to say that everyone should dread getting up in the morning, simply that our generation has this idea that everyone in life should work only at what they love and not settle for less. I hate to break it to you guys….society doesn’t work like that. Yes, some people will be so lucky…but the other jobs must be done as well. Not every societal role will fill a deep engrained passion…but perhaps you can find something else that will.

Words of wisdom from my Father: “Work isn’t always what you love. Work is what ENABLES you to do what you love.”

Last night while playing for rec-league softball team (and “playing” is giving me more credit than I deserve) I had an unfortunate injury. While playing catcher I attempted to catch a ball thrown by my team’s first base player…attempted being the operative word.

Now, let’s first cover the fact that my wonderful bf has attempted to teach me the safest way to catch while all the while stressing the importance of how to hold my mitt in order to avoid being hit in the face. Well…I guess I didn’t listen very well to his lectures since the ball bounced off my mitt and hit me square in the eye. I was a little fuzzy and dizzy feeling but I shook off the run I had just allowed the other team and continued to play.

When I got home my eye had begun to swell and bruise.

To be honest I was a bit excited, after all I have never had a black eye in my life (aside from the minor bruising associated with a broken nose)…I felt pretty tough! (Regardless of the gross feeling in my stomach that hit when I realised my bf’s parents would be visiting this weekend)

This morning I slipped on my sunglasses on my way to work and never thought it would be a big deal. Once word of what happened to me got around the office it would be old news within minutes and I could continue business as usual. Man, was I wrong. It seems as though the black eye is this only injury that involves no one asking about it due to the fact that they are afraid they may not want to know about your abusive relationship….well I can tell you – when you don’t ask, you just stare at my eye and wince, you just made me feel like I did get punched and now I should hide it…I just wish they would ask. In the future folks unless someone looks as though they are super ashamed of their black eye just assume a sports related injury and get on with it…let’s make this easier on everyone!

Looks like Ill be wearing sunglasses all night at Bluesfest!! The Black Keys might look a bit blacker than usual through tinted shades

At the moment I’m still recovering from exhaustion from Canada Day, think 500,000 in downtown aren’t enough? why not invite the royals? let’s double it! That amount of people could exhaust absolutely anyone….not to mention the small army of mid-20s guys who slept in the living room (“perk” to living with the bf?).

It feels nice to finally have my space back (even though it was most likely some of the most fun/hardest laughing I’ve had/done in a while) but I haven’t really enjoyed the inside much…or my new a/c, because there is so much to do it is overwhelming!!!

This month is Ottawa Bluesfest and it looks like I’ll get to see a few of my faves. I have already been lucky enough to see Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. They were as amazing and talented and weird as I thought they would be…and so was the crowd – “hello, intense patchouli and cigarillos smell I don’t believe we have met before”. 

I also saw some of The Flaming Lips (how do I get to be one of the cheerleaders on stage?)…although didn’t escape with a giant balloon from the show, like a girl I saw on the walk home. Annnnd the grand finale? Soundgarden – got to see them play the song from my favourite video of all time (black hole sun) and was provided with abundant entertainment by the girl in front of me using her boyfriend as a stripper pole.

This weekend I will be hitting up the Black Keys and Rise Against one night and The Tragically Hip and Erykah Badu the next. Wish me luck, if you’re looking for me on monday I’ll be the one snoring and drooling on my desk at the cubicle on your right

Hope your summer is living up to your wildest dreams!!! I know one of my oldest friends Erin’s is as she was recently engaged to the love of her life…Congrats Erin and Sean

<3 T.

As any Sex and the City fan will tell you…the term is “weird single behaviour”…and Carrie refers to it when talking about eating jam and soda crackers over the sink while reading magazines. The little things you never thought were weird until you were faced with the idea of having someone you love seeing you do them.

Here are a few I have noticed about myself…and I hope maybe someone will share some of theirs

1. I love doing exercises during commercials while watching weight loss shows. I find them so motivating and also it gives me time to rest between sets. Yes, this makes sense. No, I’m not a huge fan of my bf watching me do it.

2. Conversely, on lazy days (when I can’t get motiavted to do #1) I looooove eating a big pile of candy/chocolate/whatever junk food I happen to be craving while watching weight loss shows designed to deter exactly that behaviour.

3. In the evening if I’m bored, and maybe not having a great self-esteem day, I love to shower and do my hair and makeup. It gives me time to play with new looks and gives me a little pick me up before bed. However, I am sure if I were to do this with the bf around he would think I was crazy and would definitely assume there was an event/date night he forgot about. Buuuut….should I have a low self-esteem day anytime soon he may just have to suck it up and deal with the fact that I’ll head to bed looking like Miss America. (I wish)

4. I love eating weird combos of food right after work. Like many other people my snack monster likes to save his attack for right about 4 o’clock – too early for dinner too late for lunch. The first time my boyfriend saw me eating old cheddar and hot pepper jelly on a baguette (simply because that was what I was craving) the look on his face was priceless…and he still doesn’t/probably never will understand it.

…there are just a few…you know, the ones fit to share with anyone willing to read this. (I’m sure there are others that are much worse…but then why risk losing the few readers I still have?)

Why is it that whenever the weather gets nice at home I am seized by an uncontrollable urge to travel? Well since I just started a new job, and don’t want to seem too eager to flee for a vacay before doing any real work, it looks like I’ll be staying put…but why should that mean I don’t have any fun?

I was asked a rhetorical question today that really made me realise how insane my travel bug was at this moment…”Why be in Cuba when it will be 38 this weekend exactly where you are?” so folks, what do you do to make home seem a little bit more like a mini vacay?

Here are a three of my favourite ideas:

1. Lots of hotels have inexpensive last-minute deals and since you’re already in town you’ll never be disappointed if you can’t get a room! Enjoy some breakfast in bed and leave without making the bed….can’t get much better than that.

2. Public Pools are a great way to cool off for just a few bucks. I know my local pool is only 5$ for the whole day! annnnd they have their own bar so no need to lug a cooler on the bus. (word to the wise take a day off to enjoy this one, going on the weekend can be a little overwhelming…even for the kid-friendly amongst us)

3. Three words…Patio. Happy Hour. Most places have great summer happy hours (that involve fantastic summery drinks, like mojitos or sangria) In Ottawa I recommend cornerstone for mojitos and Mambo Nuevo Latino for a beautiful pitcher of red sangria (and an amazing rooftop patio). The best part of happy hour drink deals? you get a prime patio seat before the dinner/social drink crowd descends upon the city.

Mambo's Beautiful Rooftop Patio in the Byward Market

Feel free to share some of your favourite ideas…whether they pertain to Ottawa or elsewhere…I may not be going to the tropics but Montreal or TO are never far from my mind

Well your first impression (if you ever read this when we first started…which I’m sure you didn’t) seems to have been right on…I’m moderatley entertaining but inconsistent and unreliable in terms of how often I post. So, what do you think? Are first impressions always right-on?

I had to experience one of the most nerve-wracking first impressions opportunities this past weekend…the meeting of the significant other’s family. Now, for anyone who has done this you are aware of the idea that there is no stress-free point in a relationship at which to tackle this event. Do it too soon = you’re weird and rushing things and they’re thinking “why do I care who you are? you probably won’t be around next month anyway”. Do it late = They’re expecting some freak show (why else wouldn’t they have brought you sooner) and you’re so invested in the relationship you’re about to wet yourself thinking that if they don’t like you then what you’re invested in may no longer matter so much.

Now,  timing-wise I think this weekend was about right but it didn’t make it any less stressful. (Especially thanks to many references to “Judgement Day” by  my oh so lovely boyfriend.) In fact the whole experiences ended up being some of the most fun I have had in awhile. I also really lucked out and got to see Niagara Falls and the TO Zoo for the first time (I know I must have some pretty great karma going).

I was even left thinking that in past experiences where I thought a significant others family was pretty cool I may have been settling a bit. Then again do you ever really know how nice and comfortable something can be until you experience something that feels exactly that? 

The above question leads me to ponder a question a friend asked me the other day…how do you know when what you have is what will truly make you happy? How do you know there isn’t something out there with which you would be much happier? At which point are we settling versus being content? 

After talking this over with a few other friends I was left with some good advice to stop looking at the grass on the other side of the fence and to focus on growing my own green grass…well it was put much more eloquently than that but in summary, the idea was to work on what you have.

What do you think? Is focusing on your blessings and putting hard work into what you have at hand now seen by our generation as “settling”? If not then at which point do we differentiate?

Top 10 Friday Songs (just a little something to listen to on the walk home/wind down from travail)

1. The Ting Tings – Shut up and Let me Go
2. The Gossip – ‘Standing in the way of control’ or ‘Eyes Open’
3. Neon Trees – 1983
4. Arctic Monkeys – Fluorescent Adolescent
5. Rilo Kiley – Such Great Heights (Iron and Wine version is also great)
6. Modest Mouse – Float On
7. White Stripes – Seven Nation Army
8. Trooper – Raise a Little Hell
9. Florence and the Machine – Dog Days are Over
10. Franz Ferdinand – Take Me Out 

Top 10 Songs for Warm Weather

1. Noah and the Whale – 5 years time
2. Blind Melon – No Rain
3. Young the Giant – My Body
4. The National – Fake Empire
5. Black Keys – Everlasting Light
6. Okkervil River – Lost Coastlines
7. Airborne Toxic Event – The Girls in Their Summer Dresses
8. The Submarines – ‘Submarine Symphonika’ or ‘You, Me and the Bourgeoisie’
9. Camera Obscura –Lloyd, Im Ready to be Heartbroken
10. Islands – Rough Gem

Top 10 Favourite Recent Discoveries/Rediscoveries

1. Avett Brothers
2. I am (<3)
3. The Gossip
4. Neutral Milk Hotel
5. The Ting Tings
6. Friendly Fires
7. Neon Trees
8. M. Ward
9. The Tallest Man on Earth
10. The Apples in Stereo

However, this weekend I was reminded of a few little things I love about my city/”hood” and thought I’d share them with you in the hopes that you might share yours in whatever ‘neck of the woods’, if you will, you currently or used to reside. I am making my way back home (Eastern Canada) this coming month and can’t help but cross my “fingies” that my old faves are still kicking. (this includes Pizza Delight on the east side of Saint John NB’s make your own garlic bread bar, Breakfast at Holly’s in Hampton NB, ANYTHING at Mama George’s home cooking restaurant in Norton, NB…the price of lunch at China Wok in Quispamsis, NB and the best french fries and gravy ever at Deluxe French Fries)…jumpstart anyone’s memory out East? feel free to share your faves with me and I’ll do my best to check them out while out there (I could especially use some recommendations for Hali, St Martin’s and Charlottetown).

Now…where was I? (sorry, but it is a Monday after all!) ahh,yes my top ten favourite things about Ottawa at the moment (and be warned they will be MOSTLY food).

10. Monthly gym memberships less than a 10 min walk from work, that cost less than 40$/ month. (Thank you Jack Purcell community center – http://www.jpra.ca/detail.php?id_cnt=6)

9. My proximity to Lansdowne Park and it’s propensity for exhibitions – aka the home and garden show, the wedding show, and the upcoming big backyard show and cottage show. No word of a lie, even though I dont have any of these things in my life (and don’t foresee having them anytime soon) the people watching opportunities, amazing products and opportunities to eat and win things in one place all make for a great way to kill a sunday afternoon.

8. Sugar Mountain…check out the website if you are unfamiliar – enough said.  http://www.sugarmountain.ca/

7. The Best Burger in Ottawa, if you ask me – Chez Lucien. 137 Murray street, check it out and if you don’t like crowds but love burgers and amazing beer selections then head in for a late-ish lunch (I’ve never encountered a crowd at 2-ish). I can never pick between the burgers…so my suggestion, order a chez lucien burger and get jalapenos on the side to add yourself…you will have no complaints.

Inside Chez Lucien

6. Clocktower nachos. Amazing salsa, no shortage of hot peppers and a great price – especially early evenings on weekdays when they are half price . Plus, what goes better with nachos than beer…and they are a microbrewery, as well as an adorable pub. Check out either the great patio (once it warms up a bit of course) in the Glebe or their location in the Market – less patio, but more entertaining people watching.

5. Brunch at Lieutenant’s Pump on Elgin street. Fantastic homefries (with rosemary) a huge portion for a tiny price, great coffee refill times, and better than all of that – it comes with a chocolate to finish off your meal

4. Poutine – now whether you’re a traditionalist who loves Elgin Street Diner, a 19 year old who spends tons of time in the market and is willing to stand in line for 4 hours at 2 am for a taste of Smoke’s  on Dalhousie or a connoisseur like myself who enjoys the peppery gravy at Johnny’s Pizza in Sandy Hill – Ottawa has tons of poutine options and I have a feeling one of them will feel juuuust right for even you, Goldilocks. For anyone who loves poutine here is a little side tip – check out “Gravy Pizza” at Georgie Sorento’s on Gilmour near Elgin…I know it sounds odd but trust me, your life will never be the same…and if you aren’t willing to risk it all right away, go ahead and order your gravy on the side…I will judge you…but if you can live with yourself, that is all that matters.

3. The Manx on Elgin and Frank. A hidden and always incredibly busy pub – if youre willing to make a few attempts to get seating or simply to wait it out I promise this place is worthwhile. They have a great beer selection, amazing daily specials, fantastic wedge fries and every so often the performances of Remi Royale on sunday evenings. If you are a student or it is a long weekend I suggest you definitely do your best to experience the unique stylings of Remi…there is no way to describe it but as amazing, interactive, cover band performance art…curious? You should be.

2. This one will only be exciting if you are from out East or have been lucky enough to spend some time out there. Hooley’s may just seem like another bar with a line too long for anyone past 21 to endure…however, check it out their menu is half price on wednesdays! aaand they have garlic fingers with homemade (authentic) donair sauce. (If this means nothing to you…you mean nothing to me – jokes- …kind of)

1. My newest and perhaps most quality discovery in the centretown region is the sunday night prime rib dinner at Lieutenant’s Pump on Elgin st. (ya, I know they already made the list…but I spend a decent amount of (warranted) time there…and they have just undertaken some great reno projects) For 12.95 plus 6$(if you want dessert, a starter and coffee/tea) you can have the homecooked meal youre never going to make for yourself…prime rib, veggies, mashed potatoes and yorkshire pudding…cmon I dare you to dislike this.

** Other honourable Mentions**

- Thai Food at Talay Thai (on Bank near Catherine St) or Coriander (on Kent near Lisgar)

- Brunch at Urban Well in Sandy Hill (only available on sundays)

- The Patio at Fox and Feather on Elgin at MacLaren

- Pho at Saigon Pho at Bank and Lisgar

BUT even though its friday (and to be honest I’ve treated myself to new clothes, new hair, and a mani-pedi…so my week wasn’t that rough) I have an inkling that tonight will be a relatively low-key night. You may be asking “Why the inkling T?”…well a pretty solid track record has instilled this gut feeling in me. Now, don’t get me wrong…once in a blue moon I’ll have a few on the weekend and maybe even “cut a rug” (and I’m not referring to home decor….but rather a little dancing – if you can call what I do dancing). While some of you may “feel me” on this one, I cannot shake the feeling that I am somehow “getting old” in my mid-20s.

So…in a little homage to the weekend, my recent quarter life crises, and my steadily declining general enthusiasm for all things youth related…

Top 10 ways I know I’m getting old…

1.) When I talk to my friends on the phone it’s about pensions, benefits and mortgages.

2.) Friday nights are sometimes an excuse…to go to sleep early.

3.) Today I wore grocery bags in my boots to protect my feet from the rain.

4.) I subscribe to “groupon”…

5.) I regularly use the terms “economically stable” and “fiscally responsible”.

6.) This month I got excited about my tax return…because it enabled me to put “surprise money” into my SAVINGS account.

7.) Some nights during the week I struggle to stay awake until 10 (because that is when it becomes socially acceptable to go to bed).

8.) My job leaves me in a panic because it is no guarantee of employment past the next 2 years.

9.) I am not much of a fan of “new music”…because they all sound like robots.

10.) The other day I referred to email as “using the email”… 

Anyway folks! Hope your weekend is exciting…or whatever you want it to be

Some say the internet and downloading is bad for artists – these sites may make you rethink that.  I am always listening to music while working and sometimes (no matter how many songs your iPod can hold) you get sick of your own stuff. This is why online radio is amazing – the only downfall is the same downfall as all radio…how can I find a station I like, and even when I do why I do I have to deal with awful music in between my favourite bands…PROBLEM solved.

The first site I’ll recommend is Jango.com. This site is great as you can start to build your own station by choosing an artist you love. It will then recommend artists and play similar artists for you (which you can then like or dislike and it will play those artists less or more, depending on your vote). Then you can see artists Jango says is similar to those you like and add them to your station…better yet, if Jango makes a bad suggestion all you have to do is skip to the next song…it is radio perfection! They also introduce you to up and coming artists and then you vote on whether or not you like them – they use these votes to determine the amount of airtime new artists get…so be kind. :)

The next site is more interesting for discovering new music that is similar to what you already like…but you still have to suffer through a meh song from time to time. Check out RadioTuna.com (my fave station is TunePanda…which I also recommended to my Twestie). According to D. the site has a lot more to offer too, so feel free to explore!

My Fave Finds to Date thanks to these babies:

- Slow Club

-Noah and the Whale

- Tapes N Tapes

- The Ships are Sinking

- Cage the Elephant

- Folk Thief